My wife (28F) and I (30M) have been married for three years and initially agreed to stay childfree. After our wedding, she changed her mind and insisted on having a baby, despite my objections. To avoid conflict, I secretly had a vasectomy last year.
A few months later, she announced she was pregnant. Shocked, I accused her of cheating, not revealing my vasectomy. She denied it but agreed to a DNA test, which confirmed the baby is mine—my vasectomy had failed.
I apologized for accusing her but didn’t admit to the vasectomy. Now, she’s distant and considering divorce, feeling I cared more about the accusation than the pregnancy. Should I tell her about the vasectomy to explain my reaction, or would it worsen things? How can we move forward with a baby on the way?
– Richard
